For most people the holidays represent good times spent with loving family. All over the world regardless of the holiday or celebration families come together to eat, fellowship, talk, laugh and love. When you share special moments with people you love, it creates memories and makes the occasion even more meaningful. When one of those that you love is suddenly taken or you experience some form of loss, grief overtakes you. It can totally consume you; the first thing you think of when you rise and the last thing you think of when you lay down your head at night.
Grief is one of the most unpredictable challenges one can work through. At first it seems as if life stopped and you simply cannot see past each moment. Then, when the the fog begins to lift you can see glimpses of hope. But then, grief like a sea billowing hits you over unexpectedly. When you try to get up and put the pieces together you realize you are standing on shards of your heart.
Please understand that this is merely an indication of how one may feel at certain points especially during the holidays. It does not mean we are without hope. As God’s own we are never without hope. Hope keeps us going despite our circumstances: “All things are possible if you believe.” Mark 9:23
Some simply forget or do not realize the anguish or pain the holiday brings for those who are grieving. As a result they ask questions and say things that seem insensitive: So it must be hard for you around this time right? I guess I shouldn’t ask how you are doing; or my personal favourite: Merry Christmas!
The truth is, stating the obvious just does not help around this time. The best we can do for loved ones coping with grief, is to just be there for them whether they need to talk, need you to listen, or a shoulder to cry on.
When supporting someone who has experienced loss, think before you speak. You never know what someone may be going through. Allow yourself to be leaned on and be willing to help carry the burden. The holidays just are not the best time of year for for everyone. For more ways to cope visit: http://www.veronicaanne.com/coping-christmas-holidays/
As the one who is grieving, do something unrelated or non-traditional. It will provide a temporary escape. Do something special in memory of the deceased loved one. They would want you to enjoy the rest of your life. Prayer is a powerful tool, the scripture encourages us to pray without ceasing. Prayer is always beneficial. Immerse yourself in God’s word and encourage yourself in the Lord as David did.