Diary – September 15, 2011

 

When you lose someone you love, your life changes forever. There is a void where the one you loved once occupied. Your life takes on a new meaning and your focus, purpose and perspective changes. Memories once suppressed, resurface. A true appreciation of your loved ones accomplishments, qualities and character is realized.

When you lose a loved one, you are driven to do things,  you were not motivated to do before. Their memory permanently etched in your mind is the driving force behind every thought and action. There is a renewed strength and sense of purpose. The loss propels you forward much like an oar propels a boat.

Every morning it is the first thing that occupies your thoughts, and the last thought at night when you lay down your head. How could someone so wonderful talented, hardworking, thoughtful, caring and ambitious be gone just like that? One who made such an impact on all with whom they made contact. Yet all around us life goes on as if nothing happened.

When you love someone and lose them, you will never ever be the same again. they were a part of who you are and always will be. They forever impact your choices, thoughts and actions. Somehow, you can feel them with you as you work and attempt to live life without them. The hurt you feel never goes away. It may momentarily sink beneath the surface, only to reappear without notice. Losing someone is unlike any other experience; parallel to none. Another being can never identify with one who has experienced such devastating loss, even if they have experienced loss as well. Everyone is affected differently, grieves uniquely and heals at a different pace.

If you  are surrounded  by those you love, always ensure that they feel appreciated, cared for and loved. Life is very unsure.  No-one wants to live with regrets and no-one gets a second chance.