Moving on to everyone else may seem simple and inevitable, but to one who has experienced loss it is the most difficult task one ever has to undertake. After the initial discovery and after-shock, the grieving process begins. Life does not come to a screeching halt. One still has to interact with others at work or school and carry out routine tasks. Those left behind have to endure inner conflicts, paralyzing grief, unwelcome comments, and public scrutiny. The latter two are possible to overcome, but coping with inner conflict and paralyzing grief is a formidable task. Inner conflict may stem from many things; whether it be feelings of; betrayal, the pursuit of happiness, or success. In any case, does moving on seem as if one has forgotten their loved? The answer is a resounding no! For a loved one at peace with Christ and rejoicing in glorious eternity, there is no thought for what is earthly as we know it. That being said, if our loved ones were concerned with things earthly wouldn’t they want us to be happy, healthy and successful?
Paralyzing grief varies in intensity what remains constant however, is how it affects us on a daily basis. It changes us and hinders our ability to function effectively at home, at work or at play. Will this ever change and is trying to overcome this paralytic state wrong? Jesus Himself dealt with crippling grief, yet, He continued to carry out His fathers calling on his life. How can a believer overcome and weather the storms of inner conflict and paralyzing grief? If we are striving to be Christlike, we too must push through the grief by gathering comfort and strength from the Holy Spirit during our tenure on earth. Our Heavenly father knows we will encounter trials, tribulation and distress, these obstacles build character and draw us closer and closer to fulfilling our own destiny in Christ.
Although moving on may seem hard and challenging, it is necessary. It is not forgetting, it is cherishing the memories of time spent with your loved one, fulfilling your own destiny in Christ and looking forward to reuniting with your loved one in eternity.